For the record (start here) 1/4

Dear anyone-who’s-not-my-ancestor, Race and identity have been on my mind a lot lately, and it’s … exhausting. I’m not angry or upset, I promise, but I DO need to stop carrying all this stuff. It was incredibly helpful to be open about my breast cancer scare/all of the… ––oh my goodness, it’s only been 3 […]

Tickertape of my thoughts (5/4)

… or why I’m back here blogging, what’s gonna be the same, and what’s gonna be different this time. I was talking with a beautiful friend recently about social media, and how being a minority (of any kind) made it simultaneously wonderful (so many people all over means now you’re not the only one!) and […]

SIMULTANEOUSLY (words are weapons) 4/4

Dear Ancestors, I wish I could just shout, once and for all “DON’T LABEL ME. EVER!” I’m glad that we’re at a stage of awareness and acceptance that we’re all starting to ask for pronouns (she/her, thanks for asking!), and I’m simultaneously wishing we could just have a gender-neutral language and avoid all these labels […]

Ask if you must, but do it politely… 3/4

Dear Ancestors, Why do people always ask about you? Not that I’m not proud of you, or that I want to be the center of attention, but I’m so sick of being asked about you like it’s some sort of test, mostly because you’re not here and I don’t know the right answers. The answers […]

Am I my thoughts, or my actions? 2/4

Dear Ancestors, I’ve been thinking about the adjectives I use to describe myself. Social media profiles set a character limit to describe ourselves, and we each have to decide what’s most important to our identity. I think most things can be broken down into what we ARE, and what we DO… Thoughts vs Activities… Or […]

Presentation and deadlines…

As I was frantically knitting this morning, and thinking about how bad I am at presentation (wrapping, arranging, etc) I realized that maybe i can shift my thinking from “I suck at wrapping,” to “I expand so much energy in the making of gifts, (and I’m usually down to the wire, knitting or sewing in […]